Freedom to be You! Five Ways to Focus on Your Goals

Today we celebrate freedom. I love a good party and I especially love any holiday. The 4th of July is one of my favorite holidays. It is simple and happy, just like life in the summer should be.

What a perfect day to discuss freedom but in a different sense. For too long, I have not allow myself to be free to go after what I really wanted to pursue. Not anymore. Lately, I am working on some of my bigger goals. Writing this blog is one of them. Working on finally finishing and publishing my book I have been writing for the last few years is another.

What’s Holding You Back?

I was afraid of telling anyone I wanted to write without a list of publications. I felt publishing was the only way to give myself true credibility as a writer. I was afraid of trying to write when I didn’t know if I had anything unique to say. I used the excuse that I didn’t have enough time while I procrastinated on Facebook or Pinterest. I was scared. I was not only scared of failure but even success. What if I made it and then could not create more ideas to keep up the momentum?

Day after day, as I teach classes and counsel students in their own career development I hear myself coaching them out of fear into their dreams. I have effective, yet simple, techniques that work for so many of my students when applied. Yet, I kept myself so busy that I didn’t put the work in and apply it for myself. Was I being a hypocrite? If these techniques that I use with my students really work then shouldn’t I be doing them as well?

An Envy that Motivates

The turning point for me is when I became envious. I saw other people achieving their goals and a lot of their goals are things I want. I was happy for them but I was screaming inside. They are talented as am I but they were simply doing the work. The big difference is they allowed themselves to be free. Free to make mistakes. Free to find the time for their goals. And free to just show up every day and create.

Free Yourself

Even though this holiday is more about summer fun and not one that focuses on renewal like New Year’s, the day can still be a good reminder to look for ways to free yourself from the bad habits that are holding you back from achieving the next level.  So what did I finally do? I am showing up every day to work on my dreams. I am consistently applying the methods I use for my students. I hope some of these ideas will help you give yourself the freedom to live the life you deserve!

Find role models in what you want to do

For me, Emily Ley ( has been a true inspiration. From the slow and meaningful approach she takes to really soak in life to to her commitment to creating a community of support for others.  Also, Abby from and her husband have a fantastic and supportive tutorial series on how to start a blog. I felt like I had a personal coach cheering me on while I created this blog. A big thank you to them for helping me take action on my dream!

Increase your knowledge

When working with students, often they fear doing something simply because they just don’t know enough about it. In this situation, creating goals that are centered around gaining more knowledge is the first step. Some examples include taking a class, reading a book, or speaking with a professional in the field. For me, it was reading other blogs and books. I am learning from others who have set up their blogs and published books. As I tell my students, someone else has already accomplished a goal like yours or similar to yours. Therefore there are tips out there to help guide you in what you want to do. You just have to find that information and then do the hard work…apply the knowledge.

Made space in my life

Say no to things that are not helping you with your main goals. Being busy is a trap that makes you feel like you are accomplishing something. But if you aren’t moving toward your main purpose then you are just being busy for the sake of being busy. I am editing my life right now to make space for the work and goals that matter the most to me.

Baby steps

When overwhelmed students come to see me (which happens daily), I help them break their big goals down into small chunks. I am reminding myself the concept to break it down and even though life is busy, I can always do something. Even if I show up and work on my goal for just a few minutes a day, I am moving forward.  Lacey from A Lit Up Life feels the same way. Just the other day on Instagram she said that you can do anything for 10 minutes. When I don’t feel like I have anything to say, I make myself write for 10 minutes. Sometimes I stop after that time is up while other times, I find momentum. Either way, I  move forward…even just a little.

Just keep making art

My husband often quotes Andy Warhol when I need some motivation. Warhol said, ” Don’t think about making art, just get it done. Let everyone else decide if it’s good or bad, whether they love it or hate it. While they are deciding, make even more art.”

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